They are very insular, very involved with each other, and very apt to causing problems amongst each other if the others don't fit into what they expect of them the instant they expect it. Subject: I don't fit in with my family at all and I'm stressed out. Accept you do not fit and be good with it as the more you read, grow and learn the less you will fit. But as I’ve grown older and started a family and career, it’s become an important part of my values to show up for others, for my friends, family, career, and myself, even when it’s not comfortable for me. My older relatives who passed away were more accepting and understanding. I feel like a complete outsider in my family. You have an independent mind. First I’d like to say I understand. I'm more nerdy and introverted, less religious, and more open minded compared to my family. But figuring that out as a teenager can be life-changing. I used to handle it by doing my best to avoid groups where I didn’t fit in right away. Instead, it defines me as different. I ask “what is the truth”. To them, different equals bad. My family and I work on different levels. How to deal? You don't fit in with the crowd, so you can't sit back and agree with a matter you don't believe in. You do fit in with the family of God. The thing is, they're really lovely people. Unfortunately, many of us spend time thinking about what we ‘should’ be doing, rather than allowing our hearts lead us in the direction we really want to go. Learning what makes you happy is more important than trying to fit someone else’s idea of a successful life. Don't try to force them to fit into who you want them to be. Do good things to other people. I am in the same situation but instead of feelings of depression from this, I’ve accepted that I am always going to be the “black sheep”. I yearned for acceptance, so I spent much of my time trying to be someone I wasn't. I neither fit in with them nor do they treat me like a part of the family. Everyone who knows them loves them, and they're all really tight but I've never felt like I belong with them. We don't always fit in with our families as much as we would like to. For me, it translated into a low self-worth, no self-esteem, and reckless behavior. Take me for example. Be happy with yourself. I’m trying to be a “better” person, and although I may not have any clue what the means, or how to go about doing it, I’m trying. 2. Realizing you don't fit in with your family is difficult to handle emotionally. This sounds exactly like my DH's family. I have learned that its more important to work on being a good person. I live with my father, mother and sister. I tend to be more outspoken than my peers, less religious, more bookish, more alternative… I have convictions. I’m 18. Hi, I don't know if this is the right place to put this but I [20/f] have never felt like I really fit in with my family. Grow in your wisdom and spirituality. 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